When our fourth child was born, we lived in a 3 bedroom apartment. Our older girls shared a room, and our younger two (son and daughter) shared a room.
We moved to Colorado in 2003 and built a 5 bedroom home. We still however continued to live out of just 3 rooms for quite sometime. When we brought Eli home from China and moved my studio partially out of our house shortly thereafter, we did some rearranging. Elizabeth and Hosanna had been roommates up to that point for about 13 years.
Rearranging, we moved the boys into a shared room -- and in the summer of 2011, all three Ramsdell daughters got their own rooms...for the first time...every. Historical. One daughter kept the bedroom that had been shared; one took my "office" as her new room upstairs and one moved into the spare room in the basement. Since Victoria had always lived in a "boy" room, we decided to start the summer off by redecorating her space. She selected a light lavender color and we painted our hearts out together. We hung shelves, made homemade art, made a headboard for her bed and bulletin board for the wall. Ta-duh! We had one super cute...VERY large room.
Oddly, the complaints started almost immediately. Downstairs kid said, "I'm cramped! It's too small! It's too big! There's not enough stuff in my room! I hate the color! I have too many shelves! I don't have enough places to put things! It's too cold! It's hot! It's too bright! It's too dark! The closet is too small!" You can picture the agonizing scene.
From the upstairs kid we heard, "It's too cold! It's too hot! It's too cramped! It's an ugly color! The closet is too small!" etc etc etc E.T.C.!!!!
Eventually, because their parents in general ignore complaining, upstairs kid and downstairs kid got together and decided to take matters into their own hands. They decided to take one entire weekend and switch rooms. Genius. Or so they thought.
Shortly after the switch we began to hear, "It's too cold! It's too hot! It's too big! It's cramped! I don't like the shelves! I don't have enough places to put things! The closet is too small!" All this from girls who had never had their own space...EVER. Ugh!!!
This morning, upstairs kid came to me and said, "I wish I hadn't changed rooms!"
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Light goes on in the child's eyes. Before I could
These lessons are worth taking the time to teach our children. AND they are easier to teach when we have learned and willingly remain in the process of learning -- as their parents. Our kids complaining is often a sign of something deeper (just like our complaining is a sign of something deeper). Be in process. Take the time to walk your kids through the process as well.
BREAKING NEWS: Just heard from upstairs child who all of a sudden has a happy heart, "My room is now clean and looks GREAT!"
"A thankful heart is a happy heart." - Junior Asparagus, Veggie Tales
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